I like goth metal, but prefer it to be more extreme metal with gothic elements... lately though I heard a fantastic album from the straight up popish sounding gothic metal band For My Pain..http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4CN5j-FieHg
I also at the same time encountered a rather good black metal band covering Tiamat's goth rock single Cold Seed:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fmpVvQh4DrM
I was impressed then with the idea that gothy or symphonic BM could occasionally make use of the crooning vocals, driving song constructs, and softer edge of goth rock. Not it the Circle of Oroubous raw style but with more synths and such. Something that brings what I hear in For My Pain to black metal.
The closest example I can think of is Moonspell's album Irreligious. Id like to find more like that. But nothing too popish. I still like the mystical lyrics and images used in most black metal and would prefer it to say... any of the lyrics and images used by Epica or later Moonspell and Tiamat.